I came across Martin Daubney’s article in the Telegraph yesterday titled ‘DIY is in decline because today’s men are too soft’. It’s worth a read, because it’s largely an accurate observation on the state of men in the UK. In respect to Daubney’s article I’m a ‘soft’ man in the sense that my DIY skills pretty much begin and end at painting a wall. I don’t own any DIY tools, heck, I can’t even afford my own house to practice DIY on, but that’s an economic rabbit trail for another day.
He makes three good observations on the state of men, men are hypocrites who like to be seen to denounce the patriarchal traditions of wolf whistling at hot women and eyeballing the page three girl, but then spend copious hours at home watching online porn. So whilst many men like to appear to tow the line, they still like nothing more than watching women getting screwed by men. Not that I watch porn or make a habit of wolf-whistling at hot women (other than my wife) but I can’t help but think that porn fueled hypocrisy isn’t a step in the right direction…maybe that’s just me.
Misguided feminist ideology has emasculated a generation of men who are useless at…being men. The Western man is a strange creature, pulled in so many contradictory directions that he has no identity of his own. Now, before feminists get mad, let me clarify, I believe that women are equal and should be treated as such but I also think men and women are different. Men are not just women with beards. By misguided feminists I mean the sort who produce videos like this. There is a clear and obvious difference between ‘feminists’ and ‘misguided feminists’, like the difference between an apple and a rotten apple.
It’s unfashionable to be seen as the traditional man, we must remember that gender roles and norms are wrong, men do not gravitate towards certain roles and neither do women. We must remember this at all times as we head into a genderless utopian future. Repeat after me, “there are no gender norms, there are no gender norms”. Fortunately one of the thing about ideas that are fashionable is that they don’t tend to stay that way for long.
One thing I was surprised about when reading Daubney’s article was the obvious absence of any reference to the endemic cases of absentee fathers. After all DIY like many other skills are passed on by being observed from and taught by another person in this case from father to son. With so many missing or part-time fathers we can’t be surprised that men are more like their mothers than their fathers, because so many young men don’t grow up with one. Instead we learn how to be men by looking at our mothers which is tragically misguided, even though so many single mothers do such an amazing job. Sadly its controversial today to state that any well-rounded human being needs a mother to know what it means to be a women and how to treat a women, and a father to know what it means to be a man and how to treat other men. The data surrounding the implications for children of absentee fathers is truly shocking and has obvious repercussions for Western society. Check out some benefits that a father brings to children . It’s also no surprise to find out that boys benefit most from having a father present.
Send a comment my way, I’m happy to clarify or elaborate. Although I might be busy buying things at B & Q but probably not.